I love anthologies. Correction: I love tea and anthologies and cuddling up with my cat and the equally comforting fact of a guaranteed good read. But I love "best of" collections in particular. I've only lived in one neighborhood where the library carried all the Best American anthologies on essays, travel writing, fiction, science and nature writing, etc., and I've been hooked since. My library in Philadelphia only stocks The 2018 Best O. Henry Stories and The 2018 Best American Mystery Stories, which seems a little arbitrary. I checked out the situation on Amazon only to learn that if I wanted to read the other anthologies it costs a hefty $10 a pop. I'd pay that for a novel, but I rarely read a whole anthology. I usually pick out the pieces that sound the most intriguing instead, which gave me an idea this week...
Usually, my "new this week" feature is devoted to sale alerts and fun, light reads and book recommendations and funny news from around the web, but this week I thought I'd devote it to what is available online from the Best American Writing Series of 2018. Not all are available on the web, sadly. But quite a few are! And for free! Here are two handfuls plus three of the ones that caught my eye!
Let me know if you particularly enjoy any of the pieces below! Or would vote another selection in!
1. "When Your Child is a Psychopath" by Barbara Haggerty (Best Science Writing)
2. "Whatever Happened to the Russian Revolution" by Ian Frazier (Best Travel Writing)
3. "Items Awaiting Protective Enclosure" by Téa Obreht (Best Fiction)
4. "Los Angeles" by Emma Cline (Best Fiction)
5. "The Prairie Wife" by Curtis Sittenfeld (Best Fiction)
6. "Tiny Jumping Spiders Can See the Moon" by Ed Yong (Best Science Writing)
7. "Fantastic Beasts and How to Rank Them" by Kathryn Schulz (Best Science Writing)
8. "Hannah Arendt in New York" by Baron Wormser (Best Essay)
9. "The Art at the End of the World" by Heidi Julavits (Best Travel Writing)
10. "The Case Against Civilization" by John Lanchester (Best Science Writing)
11. "Greetings, E.T. (Please Don't Murder Us.)" by Steven Johnson (Best Science Writing)
12. "Prospects for Survival" by Noam Chomsky (Best Science Writing)
13. "Everything Is Far From Here" by Cristina Henríquez (Best Fiction)
P.S. Above are two books on my current TBR list, although I'm actually currently reading Conversations with Friends on my Kindle and listening to an audible version of Kate Morton's The Clockmaker's Daughter. Both excellent. What are you currently reading?
1. Spring Reading Recs from Hello Giggles
My Lovely Wife sounds like particularly chilly fun if you're into unputtdownable thrillers.
2. Spring sales! There's an extra 25% off sale at Anthropologie this week.
Shop sustainable label Faithfull the Brand on sale at an extra 25% off here.
3. Speaking of sales, sustainability, and spring, have you checked out online sustainable fashion boutique https://shopbaiae.com/? They're stocked with all the whisper white cottons and pretty spring dresses your heart could desire. Enjoy 15% off your first order!
4. 5 Reasons NOT to Detox this Spring at Betches!
5. Which country ranks as happiest in 2019? Vogue has the answer.
On Instagram, as in life, there are people you encounter at such a perfect moment that the connection almost seems inevitable. Before I asked Renee Peters of Model4GreenLiving whether she'd be willing to tackle five (more or less) form questions about her work and inspiration, I tried to remember when I'd first encountered her meticulously curated green-living blog or her endlessly inspiring activism on Instagram. Honestly, I can't even untangle where or how my own interest in sustainability collides and intersects with Renee's. I opened that page in my life and discovered some beautiful souls along with some practical life lessons like a few of these simple ones I summed up at the end of 2018. Renee's kindness and compassion along with her unyielding commitment to spreading the word about our culture's impact on the environment makes her one of my heroes, so I was so thrilled when she agreed to share more about her background and her own inspiration in this new informal interview section on my blog. I hope anyone who's been following my own blog and journey into the world of sustainability will also enjoy this quick peek into someone who has inspired me, and so many others, so greatly!
1. First, I’d love to learn more about what inspires you to do the incredible work you do!
I have been an animal lover as far back as I can remember, when I went to the San Diego zoo as a baby. I have also been a nature enthusiast ever since I joined the Girl Scouts as a second-grader. Whenever I am in nature I feel calm and at peace, while at the same time excited to learn and explore. There is a unique sense of immediate awe and profound happiness that I get from being around trees, plants, and animals even in cities like NYC. That spark of joy is something that I have always felt inspired to work with. As I got older and I began to learn that these things were being destroyed and ever-more at risk, I knew I was going to dedicate my life to trying to protect them.
2. How did you first become interested in sustainability and sustainable fashion? Was your gateway to becoming a sustainability advocate through your experiences in the fashion world or was it the reverse: did you learn about sustainability and from there become interested in sustainable fashion?
Definitely the latter… It was only after getting the unique opportunity to be an international fashion model that I felt a yearning to tie my day job in fashion with my lifelong dreams and love for nature. At first I was exploring veganism, and since many people in fashion are obsessed with health and looking young, I thought I would share what I had learned through the lens of sustainable nutrition. I did that initially on my blog, when I started it in 2014, until I saw the movie True Cost. Once I learned how horrible the fashion industry was for the environment, I decided to pivot and share more about that. In 2015, there were only a handful of sustainable fashion bloggers, so I wanted to help spread the word to my peers in fashion as well as my social media followers. If most of us creating and selling fashion didn’t understand the harm we were causing, it was likely to assume most of the public was unaware as well. I helped promote Fashion Revolution an their mission from the beginning, and shared as much as I could my journey away from fast-fashion. It is wonderful to see how, in only 3 years’ time, so many people are now on board with the sustainable fashion movement. I hope that it continues to shift more and more into the main stream.
I’m also wondering how your approach might have changed after the revelation that climate change is largely created by corporations and not through the decisions of consumers? I still feel like our decisions are important if only to help us envision the kind of sustainable communities we want to be living in, but I was wondering how you might articulate that?
I still live by the motto, “Buy less, choose well, and make it last.” We are fortunate to have such a broad range of sustainable products and brands available. So, for me, it is about making the best choice from the options I have. But as I have always said, living a sustainable lifestyle is a constant process. And one of the evolutions to my process, over the last year especially, has been to not be such a martyr for individual perfection. The sad truth is that even if 50% of individuals around the world (a steep goal given colonialism and the global, unequal distribution of wealth) went vegan, zero-waste, minimal, only bought second hand things and sustainable fashion, avoided cars, etc; there would still be 3.5 billion+ people and growing that couldn’t afford to live that way due to lack of time and resources, a lack of access, a lack of local waste management, health issues, etc. Yes, individual efforts can make a small impact, and if we are privileged enough to make better choices than we should… but the reality that most sustainability advocates (especially white, first-world advocates) need to wake up to is that most people are not privileged at all.
Therefore, by placing all of our attention on promoting sustainable fashion, avoiding plastic, avoiding animal products, and shopping ethically/ sustainably, is NOT going to solve the problem. It will however, take up and consume a lot of our time and resources, leaving us with little time to advocate for the real systematic changes that have to/ should have been implemented a long time ago. Not only that, it further alienates those who have been historically disenfranchised and are STILL held back due to our colonial, capitalistic culture. It points a finger at individuals who aren’t making the life choices we deem as “pure” and “earth-saving” because they can’t, while not actually forcing corporations to shift their extremely harmful/ exploitative practices.
I say all this with 100 percent transparency that I myself wrongly advocated, in the past, that everyone can make better choices, and that I still advocate to privileged folks that we can easily avoid a lot. The biggest difference in my personal and public work today is that I am constantly trying to learn about the systematic problems causing most of the damage, and how they can be fixed so this lifestyle is equally accessible and real positive change can be made. But even more so listening to people with different backgrounds than me, and sharing what I learn from them about the environmental injustices they experience and the barriers they face to living a better life. Individual actions can’t be the holy grail of sustainability if they aren’t accessible to everyone.
3. What are some of your favorite sustainable brands? I know you’ve worked with a few as a model as well. It was so great to stumble across your lovely face on Elizabeth Suzann’s site for example! If someone wanted to create a more sustainable wardrobe, where would you suggest they start?
If you have the money to invest, I do really like Elizabeth Suzann because they are incredibly sustainable, their pieces last forever, and they are size and diversity inclusive. My biggest tip isn’t about brands however, because our overarching problem on the planet today is too much consumption. The easiest and most affordable way to create a truly sustainable wardrobe is to buy secondhand, and when you wash your clothes, use a Guppy Bag to capture the polyester that is polluting our waterways. That way you aren’t using any new resources to build your wardrobe, and you’re also saving used fashion from going into a landfill or ruining a third world country’s local fashion economy.
4. What would you recommend to consumers interested in living a more sustainable lifestyle? I love your guide to sustainable gift-giving as well as your chat with Eco Cult, which in itself linked to a post of theirs called “50 Sustainable Resolutions for 2016” but which I think I could see implementing in 2019 as well! I know that you spent a month going zero waste for Earth Month. You wrote such an inspiring piece about that experience. I really think you could turn it into a book!
Be mindful of what you actually use and need, and try your best to find your personal style. If you know what you like and who you are, you are much less susceptible to marketing gimmicks and feeling left out if you aren’t wearing the latest of the constantly-changing fashion trends. I also suggest doing your research before buying a product, and making sure that what you buy can last you a long time. Then once you have the things you need and use, take care of them so they can last up to their full potential.
5. Speaking of books, which five books would you recommend on the topics of sustainability or activism or whatever you’d wish to recommend of course? You have such a great multi-media approach to activism, so I feel like I should ask if there any documentaries or blogs you would want to add to this list?
Project Drawdown is a wonderful book & guide to the future of our sustainable planet. I also recommend Eaarth by Bill McKibben, Folks this Ain’t Normal by Joel Salatin, The Omnivore’s Dilemma by Michael Pollan, and The Story of Stuff by Annie Leonard. Chasing Coral is a fantastic documentary explaining the dire problems our oceans are facing today. Other documentaries I suggest watching include: Inhabit, Terra, Before the Flood, River Blue, A Plastic Ocean, 13th , Feel Rich, Dirt!, Samsara, Planet Earth II, and Racing Extinction.
Thanks so much, Renee! I always love chatting with a fellow secondhand-shopping enthusiast, and I learned so much from this interview as well. Can't believe I've never heard of Guppy laundry bags! And they're only $7.99! You can purchase them here. Again, Renee's blog is Model4GreenLiving. You can also follow Renee on Instagram @renee.elizabethpeters. Did you guys learn anything new from this interview or something you think might work into your daily life from spreading the word about voting to washing polyester clothes in a Guppy bag?
Welcome to Vintage Tea! A new feature on my blog! I was so honored when Kara Loewentheil of UnF*ck Your Brain agreed to be my very first interviewee! First of all, I struggle with asking people for... well, asking for anything. But I could almost hear Kara's warm, personable, and wise podcast persona coaching me to "feel the fear and do it anyway."* So I gathered up my courage and asked her before I had quite even formulated what it was I wanted to do with this feature! I did explain to Kara that I had worked on a similar Take Five feature with poet Cynthia Manick while I was an editor at Easy Street Magazine. I love an easygoing interview format! It's a fun way to be introduced to someone's work and inspiration.
Every other week, I'll be metaphorically sitting down to tea with one of the incredible women whose work inspires me to seek out and find my own passion. If, like me, you're in an in-between moment of your life– in my case, my daughter just started kindergarten and my son is still at home with me while I try to start working again – I hope you'll draw as much inspiration from incredible, passionate, smart, funny women like Kara as I have! However, if you've listened to UnF*ck Your Brain, Kara's always brilliant and often hilarious podcast, you'll also understand why it proved so hard to limit myself to only five questions with her, gah!! Luckily for me I started this series off with a coach, because Kara was incredibly patient as I blundered through the process. Hopefully, I will be a little more on point next time, but here are my very first five questions in all their meandering glory! And again, I'm so grateful for social media and the opportunity to connect with women like Kara, because expanding my blog has been a dream for a while, but I don't know if I would have had the courage to ask someone else first. Is there anything in your life that you're dreaming of doing but afraid to try? Is there a first step you could take towards your dream? Read on for more courage and inspiration from this beautiful lady.
*Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Dr. Susan Jeffers
1. You have such an impressive resume! Could you describe your background a little for new readers or listeners? Do you think it was all of your varied work together that inspired this podcast, already described by many listeners (including myself) as “life-changing”, or was there one specific event or moment in your life that inspired you to pursue this work? On a related note, what’s your inspiration for your weekly podcasts? Do your ideas come from listeners or from your own work and observations?
I started my career as a lawyer – I attended Yale College and Harvard Law School and was a reproductive rights litigator and then an academic working on women’s legal rights before I became a coach. I absolutely think that background has informed my coaching and my work. I see a lot of life coaching and self-development stuff out there that at best ignores social justice and structural issues and at worst is actively appropriative. And then there’s a lot of feminist social justice discourse that is depressing and alienating. What I didn’t see anyone offering was what I have created: An empowering individually-applicable body of work and set of tools that takes social structures into account but actually teaches women how to change the self-defeating thoughts that patriarchy teaches them to think.
Podcast-wise, it’s both. I do quite a few listeners question and answer podcasts where I answer individual questions, and I create new episodes with new content based on what I’ve learned in my coaching work, my reading, my conversations with my clients, and my own self-work.
2. Can you talk about your work environment? I’m fascinated by the relatively new field of podcasting and I bet I’m not alone in that. Do you record at home? I’ve personally done a little voiceover work in studios, most notably for Jay Marks' full-length animated feature, playing Gretchen in a modern-day Faust set in Montreal, and doing the worst French accent, partially because everyone has this preconceived notion of what a French accent is and partially because I am really bad at accents. (To be fair to Jay, an Emmy-winning animator, my father does sound like Lumière in Beauty and the Beast, so there’s some truth to that stereotype.) But I also recorded some stories at home for Every Day Fiction, and I didn’t realize how close I lived to an airport in Brooklyn until then, gah! Do you run into any issues working at home? I personally love hearing your cat’s commentary in the background!
I record my podcast from home much to my poor podcast editor’s chagrin. I live in a one-bedroom in Manhattan (NY). When I first started I remember he asked me if I could record in a different room and I was like “I don’t even have a different room”! I do use a mic and a filter he recommended, but it mostly falls on him to work his magic in the remixing/editing. I don’t really think of myself as a podcaster – I’m a life coach who happens to have a podcast.
3. In addition to lawyers (Kara’s podcast was originally entitled The Lawyer Stress Solution before she changed it to the unforgettable monicker UnF*ck Your Brain) I feel like so many writers could relate to the first episode “One and Done: How to Stop Procrastinating”, which happens not only to be the pod’s very first episode but one of my favorites! I’ll never forget the day, a few years back, I found out I was not alone afflicted in the world as this massively procrastinating writer. That, in fact, most English majors (although I was a Comp Lit major) suffer from this syndrome. As a coach, do your clients tend to include many writers and lawyers? Can you talk a little about your coaching program? It sounds so fascinating! I loved the line in one of your episodes about “the first round of coaching” being about how to “get out of pain, and then the second round of coaching was to get into pleasure, joy, and excitement. The first round took away the suffering, but the second round created the next adventure.” I love the idea of approaching life decisions from that place of strength and confidence!
I work with all kinds of women these days although they do tend to be well-educated and professional women. But I find that women of all professions procrastinate. It’s less about the profession and more about the mindset. We procrastinate because we fear the thoughts and feelings we’re going to have when we work on or finish a project – and that can happen whether you’re writing a novel, researching a brief, or charting for a patient.
My coaching program focuses on the thought patterns that create insecurity, self-doubt, people-pleasing, and validation seeking. I teach women how to recognize and identify the thoughts that internalized socialization has created in their brains – women are taught to always worry about what other people think, to seek validation from others (especially men), to worry more about how they look than what they achieve, etc. All of those messages get turned into literal thoughts in your brain that you don’t even recognize. I teach women how to recognize those thoughts and then how to change them on purpose. You can’t create confidence with external achievements – it never works. You have to create it by changing your thoughts from within. I focus on really concrete cognitive methodologies – I’m not really a woo-woo type of coach.
4. Speaking of striking phrases from your podcasts that have stuck in my head, I also loved the phrase “analysis paralysis” from an interview with one of your clients. Although your client wasn’t specifically referencing therapy, how does your coaching differ from therapy? Or, do you consider your coaching similar to therapy? For example, on a related note, I recently watched the new Netflix documentary Feminists: What Were They Thinking? Have you seen it? I thought it was so good! I’d never heard of Phyllis Chesler before the documentary, and I’ve only just bought her book Women and Madness about the ways in which sexism continue to underlie the practice and the art of therapy, so I can’t speak to that but was wondering if you could or had thoughts about that? I know that for me, that’s one reason I was so drawn to your podcast! It feels so fresh, relevant, helpful, and different from what I experienced in therapy. I don’t know if you’ve read her book, but I would love to hear your thoughts on therapy (which I do think can be very helpful for some folks but wasn’t in my case for reasons I won’t go into here)!
I think that therapy tends to (1) focus on the past, (2) focus on the family of origin, and (3) focus on insight with the premise that insight on its own will be transformative. Coaching is different because we focus on the present and the future, not the past. I don’t believe that your family of origin creates your life or your potential. Occasionally it’s helpful to see where some of your thought patterns originated, but insight alone will not produce transformation. That’s the biggest difference I see. I went to years of therapy and had plenty of insight but I couldn’t seem to change my behavior. The insight on its own didn’t change my behavior because it didn’t change my existing thoughts and actions. Coaching is what teaches you the tools to actually change your thoughts – transformation requires application, and that’s what coaching offers. Most people are already too past-oriented – they think their past predicts their future. The last thing they need is more time thinking about their past. I teach my clients how to be future-focused and how to create new thought patterns that will change their future reality and make it different from the past.
5. While we’re on the topic of books (one of my favorites as anyone knows who follows this blog) what five books would you recommend to anyone looking to change their life and take control of their thoughts? Or just five great reads? Either one! Up to you!
1.Self-Coaching 101 by Brooke Castillo – my teacher’s first book and the book that introduced me to coaching.
2.Essentialism by Greg McKeown – a book all about the importance of simplifying and focusing on the true essentials in your life.
3.Mindset by Carol Dweck – so many of my clients have a “fixed” mindset where they believe their intelligence and skills are limited and innate and they are terrified of failure and rejection. This book teaches you the concept of a growth mindset – if you combine that with thought work to actually shift your thoughts, that will change everything.
4.The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson – a book about the value of small compound actions over time.
5.Killing Sacred Cows by Garrett B. Gunderson – I’m currently reading this so a bit biased but it’s all about a different way to think about creating value and wealth.
Thank you so much for your time, Kara!
Have you listened to UnF*ck Your Brain yet? It's one of my favorite podcasts of 2018 (all time)! It's truly life-changing magic. Read more about UnF*ck Your Brain here. Or check it out here or at iHeart radio or anywhere you download podcasts.
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